It’s common to feel like you're all alone in your desire to become healthier. You see the need to shift your lifestyle and create new habits, but the ones closest to you are digging their heels in, either totally apathetic or completely resistant to change.
First off, let me high five and hug you, friend. Making the choice to finally create significant changes for your health is not a small matter. I know you feel like it shouldn’t be a big deal, but it really is. Committing to exercise consistently and clean up your eating regimen should be celebrated. If nobody else around you is offering applause, make sure you hear it from me. You go, girl!
But it's awfully hard when you don't feel supported. And sometimes walking into your own home can feel like walking into the lion's den. "Who brought all these chips, cookies, and treats in here?"
What should you do?
Above all else, check your attitude. Make sure you go about your health journey with a gentle and quiet spirit, which, if you remember, is precious in the sight of God... Your husband (and the rest of your family) might be won over without a single word, just by your own behavior. (1 Peter 3:1-4) You can be a powerful influence in your home, even if you simply keep your head down and stay the course.
Should do's. Here are some tangible things that you should do if you feel like your family is not on board with your healthy choices:
Shouldn't do's. These are things that you definitely shouldn’t do with your family members. It won't help anyone involved.
As a mom, you're in a unique position of influence over your kids, especially if they're young. You make their meals and govern their activities. You can model healthy behavior for them, but you also have the authority to tell them what to do. The adults in your home (ahem...husbands...) are another matter.
Obviously, the best-case scenario would be to have a fully supportive environment where everyone in the family is working to be healthy. But often, this just isn’t realistic. Whether your home is helping you out or not, you can still succeed. And if you go about it with a gentle and quiet spirit, your family will probably come around to the healthy side.
Remember, your actions and your results will speak way louder than words.
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Megan P. Dahlman
Hi friend! I'm a Certified Strength & Conditioning Specialist, Precision Nutrition Certified Coach, Wife to Scott, and Mom to two crazy boys, Calvin & Peter. I train hard, eat well, rest just enough to keep going, and do my best to maintain a heavenly perspective. I'd love to coach you to do the same. Cheers!
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